Sage on Xavier

So, you met at Caffè Nero, how did it start?

Well, I’d been worried about finding him based on just his description, but he was standing outside so I just said “I assume you’re ‘guy in a white jumper’?”

What did you think of him?

He seemed friendly! I couldn’t quite get his sense of humour though, so I wasn’t joking around as much as I would usually. He seemed nice, but kind of serious?

“He seemed nice, but kind of serious?”

Did you guys jump right in?

Well, we headed inside to grab a drink and then just got chatting about what courses we do and where we come from.

How was the conversation?

It was okay, he was super friendly, but I don’t know if there was much of a vibe — we talked about travel, but overall it was fairly standard stuff.

Just bang average?

I think so.

Any moments you were excited to tell your friends about?

Not particularly. This was the first date I’ve been on technically, so they just wanted to hear my thoughts. I don’t want to say it was underwhelming – it wasn’t bad – but there’s not much to report.

Sparks just weren’t flying, I guess.

Yeah. He was nice, but we didn’t hang around too long. He walked me back to college and we said bye – nothing super exciting.

Did you both understand that it wasn’t going to happen again?

I think so. He did ask for my Instagram so we might see each other again as friends. I told him I hadn't done this before, and he said he hadn’t dated in a while, so I think we were on the same page – just glad that it was nothing disastrous!

Just an easy way for you both to dip your feet in?

Yeah,  and it could’ve been worse!

Sounds pretty cut-and-dry. How long were you out for?

I think just under an hour.

Okay...

Yeah.

“I wouldn’t mind hanging out again”

And you went for a dander afterwards?

He walked me back to Queens — the opposite way from his college – and I gave him a little tour of the mathematical bridge and everything. Real bucket list stuff.

Do you think he’ll message you?

I don’t know. I wouldn’t mind hanging out again, but probably not on another date.

Anything particular that confirmed that?

Well, he’d done some pretty interesting stuff, like mandatory military service in his country, but I’d ask him about it and he’d just respond “it was okay.” I was really having to dig, but maybe he was just nervous!

And what would you rate the date on a scale from one to ten?

It was pretty solid, I’d give it a seven.

Xavier on Sage

So, how did you feel going in?

Quite nervous. It was strange not knowing who I was meeting.

And how was it?

She was really friendly and I was a bit awkward!

What sort of vibe did you get?

Well, we didn’t really have much in common, I just thought she was a nice person.

What stood out to you about her?

She seemed really kind. As I said, I was nervous, but she put a lot of effort in to keep the conversation going!

Did it feel strained?

In the beginning, it was okay, but towards the end I didn’t know how to keep the conversation going. A lot of it was her asking and me replying.

Were there any more hopeful moments?

Not really, in terms of seeing her in a romantic way.

And how did the night end?

It was fine. We walked to her college and afterwards she just said “do you know where to go from here?” and we left it there.

“It could’ve been a lot more awkward!”

Do you have any intention of reaching out?

Probably not, but I don’t regret signing up.

How come you asked for her details, if you were sure it wasn’t going anywhere?

I just thought it’d be better to have it than not.

Was there anything particular about her that made you think you guys weren’t a match?

I think she’s in a different part of life. She mentioned wanting to working in the U.K. and I’ll probably do my master’s elsewhere. So, nothing in terms of personality, I think we just had different interests which made it hard to bond.

Did you have anything in common?

We both like to hike and travel!

And did she have any particular green flags?

She really was friendly which definitely helped — I think it could’ve been a lot more awkward!

Lastly, how would you rate the night from one to ten?

A six. In the sense that nothing came of it.

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